Don't you just hate it when your lenses get smudged? Man, I do. Can't stand it. Yet it happens. It's unavoidable.
Same thing in our lives. It's so easy for our mental lenses to get smudged, isn't it?
Think about it... Someone smudges our lenses by doing or saying something that feels hurtful or embarrassing.... And if we're not careful, what happens? Our perception of them ALSO becomes smudged and before we know it, we begin filtering everything that person says or does through those smudged lenses.
It can happen when we go through something painful in our lives too. Suddenly, that "smudge" tells, or in some cases, confirms that we are victims and we eventually find ourselves living life with a "victim" mentality - which ultimately impacts us in so many unhealthy ways.
Same thing can happen when we face conflict in our workplaces or in our communities. Suddenly, we see that conflict and all future ones through those smudged lenses.
So what do we do?
We clean our lenses. Or in some cases, if the lenses have gotten severely scratched or damaged, we get NEW ONES.
Have you ever noticed how much better everything looks through a new set of lenses? Suddenly everything is clear and clean! The world looks better! Our work associates look better! Our friends and family look better! (or in some cases worse - depending on how you look at it...but we won't go there.)
Anyway - all that to share three things I read in Harvard Business Review this morning. Three types of "new lenses" that we can view challenges/crises/conflicts through - and then the question that each one asks:
Reverse Lens - "What would the other person in this conflict say and in what ways might that be true?"
Long Lens - "How will I most likely view this situation in six months?"
Wide Lens - "Regardless of the outcome of this issue, how can I grow and learn from it?"
Some good stuff from October issue of HBR. Article entitled: "Manage Your Energy, Not Your Time" by Tony Schwartz.
This is my 2nd week of taking Fridays off. So far, so good. My day off used to be Mondays. But to tell you the truth, I'm not much fun to be around on the first half of Mondays, so I finally realized that I was ripping my family off by making that my day off. So I changed it. And so far, Fridays feel so much better!
So today, Amanda is out with a friend and I'm at home with Julia. And Amanda's MacBook. :)
It's been two days and I still feel like I'm digesting all that happened this past weekend at The Orchard. As most of you know, this past Saturday we launched our new 5pm Saturday evening service and the place was PACKED! We were literally adding chairs and squeezing people in. It was incredible!
My only concern was what Sunday mornings might look like since there were so many people Saturday night. Well, Sunday morning came... 9am service felt a little lighter than usual, but still a great crowd. And the 10:45am service had a GREAT crowd!
I don't think I have ever posted numbers on my blog, but I have to share this... We saw our weekend attendance jump 250+ people this past weekend (which represents a 41% increase over recent weeks)! The number of first time guests was amazing! And it sounds like most of them showed up via personal invites from a friend and the invite mailer we did a couple of weeks ago.
So we're celebrating today. And I am so, so, so thankful to be a part of such an awesome team.
Thank you staff - both paid AND unpaid - for all of your hard work leading up to the launch! I'm convinced that the momentum we're feeling right now is a direct result of the passionate buy in to our mission that every one of you have. It is SO evident! Wow...I am so proud. And honored... And yet, I know that this is just the beginning.
Fasten your seatbelts guys. It's going to be quite a ride!